I can’t lie, after a stressful week I feel … defeated – like I gave up and, somehow, the week won. I know, it sounds like overly complicated and drawn out, but that’s how I am at times, it’s what makes me … Alana. This morning, as I sit here reflecting on this beautiful Sunday, I want to talk about self-care – better yet, soul-care. Too often, we are pushed in so many different directions. Like me, I’m an aunt, sister, daughter, full time employee and probably a full-time babysitter when it comes to my nieces and nephews. But, at the end of the day I’m only human and there’s no changing that. Sometimes, I get so caught up in taking care of others that I forget myself in process. Self-care is necessary, it’s what keeps us going, what keeps us from losing ourselves among the chaos of life. Self-care …. soul care, should I say, is deeper than what we think, because some of the things we may do from day to day may be not be beneficial for us.
Soul care is more than going out and shopping because it makes you, “feel better.” It’s about giving yourself a mental break – disconnecting from everything around you. Sometimes I feel as if the stresses of the world are surrounding me, and I have to remind myself that at the end of the day, my mental health comes before anything. It’s this feeling I can’t describe … my head feels as if it’s going to explode from all the pressure I feel, and sometimes it brings tears to my eyes. When that feeling comes over me, I know it’s time to let go, and take care of “Alana.”
There is no need to glamorize soul-care. Sometimes, it’s the smallest things that mean so much: a bubble bath and a glass of wine, indulging in your favorite chocolates, taking a drive … washing your hair. We take these things for granted when sometimes, they’re little reminders that at the end of the day, you’re only human. Sometimes self-care is allowing yourself to feel, because we constantly are strong for others and never for ourselves.
Soul-care is disconnecting yourself from the world for a few hours and allowing yourself to recharge; sometimes you laugh … sometimes you cry. When I say I cry, trust me … I cry. Crocodile tears – the ones you think only happen in the movies – I let go and allow myself to reflect. I’m not ashamed to say I cry, because I would be a liar and less of a person if I said I didn’t. That’s what self-care is about … disconnecting yourself. It’s about removing yourself from social media, turning your phone off, and reflecting on what makes you happy. Sometimes we are so caught up in the lives of others, that we forget ours is simply passing us by. Time is of the essence, and the more we spend it taking care of others, the less we live. Not in the sense of us dying, but in the sense of our lives passing by with no memories in tact, and no moments we hold near and dear to our hearts. These are the moments that we live for, the moments that are so precious, we never want to let them go.
Self-care is learning that it’s more than okay to walk away from toxic situations … toxic people.
Soul care is meditation.
Soul care is growth.
Soul care is prayer.