I woke up this morning wondering how the hell it’s already November 21st when my hot girl summer just ended last week … well, not really. Time seems to fly by and before you know it, it’s the most wonderful time of the year. I miss the innocence of the holidays: being a kid and just being excited to not have school for a couple of days … to spend time with my brothers and sisters staying up late, eating junk food, and anxiously awaiting Santa’s arrival. Now, at 29, I secretly can’t wait for the holidays to come and go. Maybe it’s because I work on the holidays, maybe it’s because I feel like we spend so much time going into debt to please the ones we love … or maybe it’s because the holidays aren’t the same without a couple of my siblings. What I do know is that I’m stuck in a rut, and can’t seem to shake it.
I still find so much joy in being around my family – my nieces and nephews in particular, because it reminds me of the euphoria I felt as a child. I’ll admit it, every year I tell myself I’m not going to spend copious amounts on them … that even the smallest gifts could mean so much. Fast forward to Christmas Eve and I’m standing in the middle of the mall among the thousands of other last minute shoppers damn near in tears because that one toy my niece or nephew wanted is gone. The holidays, it seems, have become some type of competition to show how much you love somebody when, at the end of the day, a gift is nothing in comparison to love.
So I’ve decided that this year, finally, things are going to be different. Instead of spending so much money on unnecessary toys and shoes they’ll probably only wear 5 times, I’m ready to take them on adventures! Now, the way my wallet is set up, we aren’t going far, but building memories with them is so much more important than driving myself crazy trying to find the perfect gift. In fact, I think it’s something I’ll do with all of my family and I encourage you all to do the same. Stop stressing over gifts and focus on memories, those are the things that will last forever. DO NOT go into debt trying to please the ones you love. Most importantly, just remember to be kind to one another. I mean, you would think it’s one of those unspoken rules, but we don’t know everybody’s situation, and we don’t know who their missing during the holidays. To those of you who are missing a loved one, reflect on all their memories you’ve shared with them … talk to them. And just remember one thing: you are not alone.